You are Not Alone
Have you suffered a loss? You are not alone.
Most people in the world have also suffered at least one loss of a close loved one.
Not Alone is here to offer you support as you find the strength you need to get through this difficult and dark period of your life. This website has been created to assist you in your grief, as well as to provide support and resources that will help you - please take the time to have a look around.
First of all, remember that everybody grieves differently. You may be feeling and acting completely differently to someone else that you know. That is okay and that is normal. Just be yourself and don't compare yourself to others. Be kind and gentle to yourself, as you are the only person who knows what is best for you right now.
Often our friends and family will want to help, but they do not always know how. It is difficult for the people who care about us to know what to say or do at these times. Sometimes just knowing that they are there for us should we need to call on them is enough.
So take one day at a time, and if that is too much, break it down to half a day, and if that is too much - take it one hour at a time. Remember to breathe, and if you feel like crying, then don't be afraid to. When we cry our tears provide a release - quite often we feel a lot better after a good hard cry.
Death is a destination that none of us can detour. So grief is a journey that like it or not, we must take.
Sometimes we may choose a road that we think is easier to travel down at a particular time. That is okay. But ultimately all roads lead to dealing with our grief and accepting our loss. That doesn't necessarily mean that we ever 'get over it' - but hopefully we learn how to adjust, adapt and accept, and 'live with it'.
Just remember to be true to yourself and to take one step at a time.
Over time, our treasured memories soften the edges of the empty void which is our loss.
Sometimes we may choose a road that we think is easier to travel down at a particular time. That is okay. But ultimately all roads lead to dealing with our grief and accepting our loss. That doesn't necessarily mean that we ever 'get over it' - but hopefully we learn how to adjust, adapt and accept, and 'live with it'.
Just remember to be true to yourself and to take one step at a time.
Over time, our treasured memories soften the edges of the empty void which is our loss.
Death Notices
You can publish death notices on Not Alone for free!
These will remain online for at least 7 days after the funeral service.
Just tell us the name of your loved one, and the details of the funeral and we will publish the notice on our dedicated Death Notices page.
You can even choose an image to be displayed next to your death notice.
These will remain online for at least 7 days after the funeral service.
Just tell us the name of your loved one, and the details of the funeral and we will publish the notice on our dedicated Death Notices page.
You can even choose an image to be displayed next to your death notice.
Online Tributes
It doesn't matter if your loved one passed away a week ago, or years ago - all tributes are welcome.
The introductory one off cost for the In Memoriam service is just NZD10 (including GST) - plus, your tribute will be displayed forever.
The introductory one off cost for the In Memoriam service is just NZD10 (including GST) - plus, your tribute will be displayed forever.
